April 21, 2019, marks four years since my first article was published. Part of me still regrets publishing it as I just wasn't in a good place at the time, and I've never liked how cynical and angry I came across. It is what is, however, and I have to live with it. I'm not … Continue reading Explaining Something Unexplainable
It’s a New Dawn, It’s a New Day
The sun is shining here. After a very dreary winter the sunshine is like breath to my soul. I hope it's sunny wherever you are. It's been a year and a half since I last wrote. The last comment left asked why I don't write anymore. I've been thinking about that recently. Why don't … Continue reading It’s a New Dawn, It’s a New Day
Happy, Well Adjusted Kids
If you spend a minimum of five minutes reading threads from posts regarding homosexual parenting you are sure to find more than one comment from someone that says something along the lines of "I know a wonderful gay/lesbian couple with kids and their kids are so happy and well adjusted!" Chances are that if you … Continue reading Happy, Well Adjusted Kids
Love is All You Need?
"You just didn't have enough love" That's the first line in a private message I received. It went on to say that the message was from someone who had gone to UC Berkley and I needed to get therapy and grow up. For the record, I had plenty of love. If anything, I was too … Continue reading Love is All You Need?
Holidays That Hurt
Today is Father's Day. It should not be surprising that this is not one of my favorite holidays. As a child I hated it. It was like pouring salt into a wound. I was so grateful it didn't come during the school year so that I would have to watch my friends make lovey dovey … Continue reading Holidays That Hurt
Making Mistakes and Dealing With Anger
In April I finally decided to talk about what it was like for me to grow up as the child of a lesbian, and right off the bat I made some mistakes. I suppose that’s to be expected seeing how I had been mostly silent about the subject for thirty three years, and still had … Continue reading Making Mistakes and Dealing With Anger
Fallout
April 30th, 1997, was the night the episode aired when Ellen came out in front of America. June 28th, 2015, the Supreme Court legalized same sex marriage. Eighteen years, one month and 29 days. That’s how long it took the fallout I expected after watching the episode to arrive. Since the Supreme Court’s decision I … Continue reading Fallout
“Thank You, Sir.”
I’ve never liked the word dyke. Especially in reference to my mom. The images that word brings to mind are not pleasant. Butch isn’t really any better to me. There are degrees of unfemininity and neither really accurately describe her. I’ve taken to using non-femme because it feels so much less insulting and degrading. Understandably, … Continue reading “Thank You, Sir.”
The Waves Will Wash Us Away
I remember the night Ellen came out on her TV show in front of millions of people. My mom and her girlfriend were big Ellen fans and we watched the show religiously. After the episode went off that night I was left with the sensation of a bomb having just exploded before my eyes and … Continue reading The Waves Will Wash Us Away